It is dangerous to involve too many people in your marital relationship. My father always said, "Don't take sides with friends who are having marital problems. They will get back together and get all lovey-dovey, and you are out in the cold as the person who said bad things about the spouse. Your reward is that they'll both hate you."
It makes it hard to reconcile when you have involved family, friends and the boss in the dirty laundry of your home life.
This is also the line of reasoning that enables affairs to continue longer than they should. Rather than speaking up about how destructive infidelity is and bearing down on it people bury their heads in the sand... THAT to me is a shame.
Speaking out against infidelity is not "taking sides"... infidelity is clearly counterproductive. Simply telling a person "You two are having probelms, but having an affair makes things a LOT WORSE.. if you want your marriage problems resolved one way or another, STOP CHEATING and address them with a professional"
This is NOT taking sides, other than taking the side of the marriage over taking the side of the affair.
Much like reporting a crime, you arent' taking sides on reporting someone breaknig into a home, you are protecting a home and putting an end (hopefully) to counterproductive behaviour.
