Yes, those were the things that I took as a good warning not to expose at work. I think you made a very good choice to stop exposing as it was counter-productive in your case. I cannot imagine how humiliating it would be if someone were to challenge me about my personal life at work. That is very dangerous ground. The only time I could see it being appropriate is if the affair involved co-workers and trysts occurred at the workplace. And I realize that is often the scenario.
I find it ironic that a cheater would find exposure to be humiliating.
