luv, I understand where you're coming from. I was afraid, unable to detach, concerned about stuff when the last time my STBX left.
Gnosis, was brutally honest but made some good/needed points in regard to your concerns and issues. Just make up your mind and stick with your decisions. You have a great support network here in your DB friends who can help you stay on track or answer any questions or provide moral support.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again