My wife and I had a relatively pleasant morning yesterday and she even said, "Have a nice day" when I left. She texted me later to tell me that she ordered a jungle gym for our boys and it would be delivered next week. When I got home she was pretty excited to show me the catalog and explain what she ordered. In the midst of telling me how the gym can be expanded as the boys grow, she said something like, "As they get older WE can add...I can add new pieces." In other words she caught herself saying "we" instead of "I". My therapist believes that was a positive sign that she might be softening just a little bit. In her enthusiasm she spoke in terms that were inclusive, then heard herself and flipped it. I wasn't sure how to take it, tho I didn't take it too well. But my therapist told me to stop beating myself up over every little thing and look at it as my wife letting slip the fact that she is conflicted and is at least thinking about it.
