Db not working, MLC spouse pushing D

[foreverhesaid]

Thanks for the info and advice everyone. It helps to have a listening ear.

OP, I certainly want to contact a lawyer only to get an idea of how the process works, however I am also afraid that that might escalate things. Since he dropped second divorce bomb, there has been no mention. I thought now that he was really really certain this is what he wanted that he would be making plans, wanting to sit down and talk over finances, etc. But there has been nothing. Thank you, I have read a lot of the resources.

Since that time one week ago there have been several instances where he was actually exceedingly kind and thoughtful. The downstairs bathroom that I stripped - we found out the wallpaper won't be in for a few weeks. My H offered to paint it so that when my parents come to visit in 2 weeks the room would look nice. Parental visit has nothing to do with D -bomb, it was already planned. I was surprised that he would care how things looked, after all, doens't he want to leave all of this?

Also, on St Patricks day when I came home from my GAL dance lesson he had made reuben sandwiches for dinner and gotten drinks, even bought a silly horror movie he thought I might like. First you rip my heart out, and now you're being nice? I wondered if this was a way for him to assuage some of his guilt.

Today we have off from work and I thought surely he would broach the Divorce topic. Instead, he spent hours transferring files from old computers to our new one, all stuff from the 80's that he either recorded or wrote. I know that this is his 'escape time' the late teenage years, when OW was his girlfriend so many years ago. Is he trying to run away not only from me, but the divorce issue as well? I know you can't tell me that, but it does make me wonder.

I'm still trying to focus on me, I went outside and started some yard cleanup, not only because it has to be done, but also to get some distance from him.