This is something I have suggested some time ago for relationship building...
And yes.. warning to all rabblerousers Allen is offering advice on rebuilding a marriage POST AFFAIR
Suggestion :
Take up a volunteer job of some sort. Teach people to read, or whatever, Neighbourhood garbage run, whatever...
Your spouse can see maturity and betterness in YOU whithout you having ot PURSUE THEM at ALL
Dont' tell her you're donig it, just leave things laying around to indicate what you're doin...
If you find a flyer or add for volunteer help, leave the add on YOUR desk someplace.. trust me, she's likley snooping.. let her find it
And most important.. ENJOY the volunteer work, it is moivating and will make you feel better.
I did volunteer work at a local theatre for example.. bulding sets other stage crew work... I didn't get paid a dime, but it was a non-profit theatre, they needed the help, and it was a lot of fun
And I was getting snail mail from them each month with a brochure of what shows were on each month... my WS did see thsoe letters
No pressure but she saw improvement.. this was very effective when I did it
