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[hoosiermama]

Perhaps you haven't noticed Allen, but you are the only one talking about it. Do you have an obsessive-compulsive disorder?

Personally, I think it is a lot more worthy of notice that Hoosier shared her story with us, which was an example of exposure to friends that failed to help her situation and a stern warning against exposure at the workplace.

no, I didn't do anything toward exposure at the workplace; xH threatened to take the house, ruin me financially and fight for full custody if I did that. And at the time (less than a week into this and having simultaneously found out my job was ending) he scared me enough that I just completely quit.

I think I'd still have exposed to friends if I had it to do again, but not to his family--especially considering it's an enmeshed Italian family. and I'd have chosen the friends more wisely, altho I thought I was choosing wisely at the time. I still find it amazing that in spite of proof in front of their eyes, that they chose to believe whatever xH told them and found greater fault in my reading his email than his adultery. And considering that one of those friends was his pastor, I don't think I could have predicted that response.