I'm sorry you're winding up a single mother. It's one of the (many) factors I've considered in my decision not to have children in my life. I looked at the odds and decided I didn't want kids enough even with the help of an H (and most of my friends' H's dont help that much and, when they do, resent it), much less with the statistically high odds of winding up a divorced Mom (a fate that happened to many of my friends' parents). All you can do is try to make sure you don't wind up bitter. That was the fate of many divorced and single moms of my friends'parents' generation. I don't think that will happen to you.
