MLC - standing by my man

[Mila]

Thank you Grace & confusedwife

Yes, at least it happened when WH was back in town so he could be here and say goodbye to him with us.

[Mila]

Kimmie, thank you, I appreciate your opinion, I really do. I welcome all points of view. It makes me think and reevaluate... and that's a good thing

[Mila]

I decided to send my WH an email. I realy though that he was awesome today with the dog situation and very helpful. I wanted him to know that he is being appreciated.

Hi, I just wanted to thank you again for being there today when (dog) passed away. It was really hard on me with everything else that's going on... I really appreciate you doing all the "hard work" and all of your support this morning. Thank you

[seeking answers]

Mila, I am so sorry for your loss. Pets become part of our families and losing one is devastating.

I think your email of appreciation is wonderful. I'm new at this myself, but thanking him again for what he did for you in this sitch isn't going to hurt anything. I acknowledge anything my H does that is positive with a thank you. It let's them know they aren't being taken for granted. Just my 2 cents.

Take care.

(((Hugs)))

[Cadet]

Mila
Sorry for you loss, I think the e-mail is fine. It is a good idea to thank your WH for GOOD BEHAVIOR.

For future e-mails you might want to post them here and get some ideas before you send them. Remember we have a 24-48 hour rule. Wait to do anything for that time so that you don't let raw emotion get in your way.

[Mila]

Thank you SA & OP, I'm still very sad about our dog but I try to think about what a good life he had with us.

I feel good about sending WH the thank you e-mail, I would have done that for any other friend and that's how I want to treat him, right?

OP I like your suggestion to post my e-mails before I send them. It would give me the feedback and the cool-off period (which I seem to need often)

I'm going to do some GAL over the next 3 days. Taking D16 & her friend for a ski weekend. I'm looking forward to it. I need to get out of here!!!! First time without WH. He actually said to me yesterday "Take your daughter and have fun, relax and don't think about bad stuff, when you come back we will attack the business together"

Does the "Your" daughter have any significance? Is it his way of detaching? Just wondering.

[trustingfaith]

Mila,

I have been thanking my H for the little things he has been doing (which are more lately), via email or just a quick "thanks, I appreciate that" in person. I decided that is the kind of person/friend I want to be, and his MLC shouldn't stop that. I keep it simple and quick and honestly, so far he has responded well and so I don't think it comes across as pursuing to him.

[Kimmie Lee]

Kimmie, thank you, I appreciate your opinion, I really do. I welcome all points of view. It makes me think and reevaluate... and that's a good thing

Thank you. I was just wondering if OW H has been truthful with you. To me, it appears that he has, so how did he become the common enemy?

By contrast, your h IS lying to you and has flaunted his ow pretty much in your face. Is he still flying a great distance to see her?

[Cadet]

so how did he become the common enemy?

He is not the enemy. But does that mean she should trust him?

The OW H is really nothing in this sich. Neither friend nor foe. I think the point was to treat him as such.

[Mila]

Hi trusting, I too have decided that I want to be lovingly detached (I still have ways to go to perfect that). Despite his MLC, I know that the person I admired an cherished is still in there somewhere and I still love him. I'm doing it as much for ME as for him. It's just the way I'm.