I've told her I'm not planning to but I did ask her what cottage she was intending to go to out of curiousity. She may have interpreted this as renewed interest. OT, you are quite correct that STBX and I are not friends or lovers but we are partners in raising our kids. We celebrate occassions such as birthdays, mothers/fathers day, Christmas, etc together as a family. Does this stop me from separating emotionally? Possibly. Yet, I don't sit around thinking about her or fantasizing about getting her back but the connection may make it harder to move on. Neither of the two therapists I have seen are alarmed at what I do with STBX. My goal right now is to be content with what I have because when that is true I can look for other R's in a healthy way. I'm not interested in grabbing someone just because I'm lonely and need some validation. I'm just having a bit of trouble with that right now because I'm tired and keep pushing more than I should to get back to where I want to be physically and emotionally.Anyway thanks for your thoughts as they are always thought provoking!
