Need a Plan for My Marriage

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Hi robx,

No I am not a prisoner in my own home. She is gone from 8 to 8:30 pm Monday throught Friday, and on the weekends she wants to take the only car have go with the kids at least one day. The other day I have to go shopping for groceries, etc. so we can eat. I know you don't understand my situation, and I don't expect you to. I am not here to justify my decisions to anyone. I am just trying to ask for advice on my marriage, not on whether I should have a job. I know I need one more than anyone here will ever imagine. I go bed at around 2 and wake up at 5:45 am everyday. I look for jobs, take care of the kids, and come here for some relief from the situation to only find that I am being criticized. I have told her that I need to do some tings for myself but she says her job comes first. I can see from th responses here that I should not stop her from doing her job since she is the bread winner. I try to respect that. I really don't know what more to say on this subject. It is so frustrating to me. I do take the car during the day to interview, but she makes such a fight that I just do it as little as possible except for interviews or take care of our bills, so our credit stays good. I would interview and do more, but we don't have the money for daycare. My kids have to eat too. Our rent is half of her income, and that does not leave much left over. I have friend that lets me pay him later when I have the money for daycare, so I can go to job interviews. There is so much more I could say, but I don't want to come off as ungrateful for everyone's genuine concern for my situation.

I do really underand what everyone is saying, and I do appreciate all the comments.

Thank you!