Gardener, I haven't checked your thread in a while... find this forum a bit painful to go to, with how close this came to being my reality. But, wanted to see how you are doing.
I am sorry to hear of the on-going roller coaster ride, and I am particularly pained for you to hear where you were at New Year's Eve. I had serious thoughts myself at certain points in my sitch. Thank God the thought of my children living with the aftermath of that put a stop to that.
I have kept up with your sitch almost from the beginning, and I admire you for how you have coped with such a devestating time in your life. You have such inner strength... which I know you don't always feel... but that will get you through. It sounds like you are making good choices about where to go from here.
I agree with the others not to take SIL's FB thing personally. Family get put in a difficult position with D, and she probably does not know how else to handle it.
BTW... i LOVE old BTO (and ABBA too, if truth be known...) Picturing you rockin' out in your house makes me smile!