If Not Now, When?

[ClingingToHope]

Things happen. In our case, the gradual part of the transition was that I spent two months living with a friend so I couldn't have them.

Once I got my place my night was my night. I look around at some sitchs where the non-custodial parents gets meals instead of full nights during the week.

That's worse on the kids. It really marginalizes the non-custodial parent and just jerks the kids around.

I wouldn't ease in gradually. It's sink or swim time. The kids will swim and so will Dan.

Then you can focus on your time with them and not have to worry so much about his time.

I'm going to fight hard to make sure I get to keep my Sunday nights. W wants me to bring them back at 6 p.m. on Sunday. To me, a weekend is Friday, Saturday AND Sunday nights. If I'm somewhere with them on Sunday, I don't have to worry about leaving early so we have to pack up and get back in time.

That's just a power play.

Side question, I remember right after the D became final you were getting some interest on Match and you were exchanging messages with some military guy. Then I missed some posts and there's been no mention.

Just curious. What happened there.