feel like giving up - pt 2

[flowmom]

Personally, I want to follow the guideline in DR: give the changes X months to work (X=number of years of marriage). In my case that's 15 months (including years of living together which I think count in terms of baggage accumulating).

Although our sitches are different, I'm on the same timeline as you post-bomb. It's totally clear to me that in my sitch not enough time has passed for 1. me to truly GAL and project the confidence from that 2. for my 180s (which I have been successful at) to be believable as long-term changes 3. for H to truly recognize the losses that will come with D.

I know that I've challenged you in your thread, but I want you to know that my intention truly is supportive. And I understand if you don't want to be married to your H. I don't feel that you have a responsibility to try to bust your own D...far from it. I just hope that you really know what you want.