Are you getting good marital advice?

[saffie]

No, I don't think anyone is stupid, I think some people are lazy and don't listen or read when they shoul be is all.

I think that can apply to all of us at times.....as you state further on in your post. However, I felt you were implying that I was not comprehending the posts and comments ....yet I was. I was just commenting on my surprise at the phrasing.

I don't tend to like such an abrasive style-I find it turns me away, however I do know Harley's work to some extent and like yourself, look for those nuggets of information that strike a chord and make sense. I try to keep an open mind as far as possible. I try to do the same with all the books I read on infidelity by the 'experts'. Some things make sense, others just seem plain strange, whilst once I got so mad at something I was reading I threw the book at the wall!!!!!

However, one can also get to overload point and I think at the stage I am at in my M ,that is where I am. My T has told me to stop reading some of the stuff I was reading and he was right. Time to move on. Time to just ensure my M never gets to the state it did before that made my H feel the need to look elsewhere.