1. We have no data to suggest that a random new mate is less likley to cheat than a current mate who has worked through the rebuilding process. 2. The only way to know if a relationship CAN be repaired is to explore that rebuilding process.
Granted, in some extreme cases of multiple affairs, violence, etc, I can certainly see why some may just cut their losses and opt not to explore this venue.
But in OIN's case, there was no PA that we know of, and he EA was brief and not that involved.. though OIN is still monioring the situation.
OIN's situation is quite mild compared to some other posters on this forum.
Agreed on amany points including the extent of the affair. Mine was never proved to be a PA but definitely was an EA and even though I have no proof logic suggests to me that she had the PA as well. I don't need to know or confirm the details--it would just harm me mentally and make it harder to move forward in life.
I should have confined my comments to another and better thrread for this given that OIN seems to have caught his wife before catastrophic damage occured to the relationship. I didn't so my thoughts are probably a little inapprpriate for this thread.
Carry on and good luck with the rebuilding if that ultimately turns out to be the right decision.
I'm not sure i want to be married to you anymore - 8-30-09 ILYBINILWY = 9-4-09 Busted her on a date 9-19-09 Separation - 9-21-09 Divorce - 10-9-09 S15 S13 S10 M - 18 Years
