Harley is known for being quite passionate about this subject... he's known for daring statemetns that will shock people.. He has put infidelity and rape in similar cateogiries in public lecture.. this sort of thing is daring for most Family Therapists.. he is probably one of the most outspoken voices on how much emotional violence this sort of thing brings to a home.
Yes, he's abbraisive, but ya, maybe that's why I like his work...
No, I don't think anyone is stupid, I think some people are lazy and don't listen or read when they shoul be is all.
If you read more of Harley's work you will find a lot of daring comments on this subject from him. I am not going to argue each case. If you don't agree with him, send him an email.
THere is a LOT of good material in his work, I don't take all of it myself either. But I do try to find the diamonds in the rough and share them when I can.
Like any writer, MWD included, there are things that you won't like this is no reason to toss the baby out with the bathwater...
You can toss up any comment of his that you disagree wtih, this does not dismiss the entire body of his work or his credentials.. it merely means you disagree with the point posted...
But I am noticing here a lean to dismiss Harley in particular based on a specific point he has made, which is downright silly.
Again I don't think anyone is stupid, but I do think care should be taken when reading anyting, and sometimes the time, the patience, or the situation does not make this possible.
I have replied to many posts in haste myself, due to excitemetn about what was read, or due to a time constraint of my end...
