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[saffie]

How to Survive Infidelity

The question I am most frequently asked by visitors to this web site is "how can I survive my spouse's affair?" After having counseled thousands of couples with hundreds of marital conflicts, I am completely convinced that a spouse's unfaithfulness is the most painful experience that can be inflicted in marriage. Those I've counseled who have
had the tragic misfortune of having experienced rape, physical abuse, sexual abuse of their children, and infidelity have consistently reported to me that their spouse's unfaithfulness was their very worst experience. To be convinced of the devastating impact of infidelity, you only need to go through it once.

OK, this was the quote. Now where is he placing infidelity and what weight is he putting on it in regard to the other deeds?

No, you aren't getting it, your comments make it clear you are thinking without listening first.

I completely get it and what he is saying and trying to emphasise - I am just expressing my surprise.....as is my right.

He is GROUPING offensive crimes.. he is NOT putting them in any specific ORDER OF OFFENCE...

No, but he is weighting infidelity.....surely YOU CAN SEE THAT.

.....and I do not have time for this.

So why did you bother replying?

I'm not stupid......although I guess you possibly think I am. I was just commenting on my amazement at the way he had phrased his comments.