How to approach W about OM

[elscotto]

Boy, I don't know all. At the risk of being cynical these days I am starting to wonder--with 5 billion people (half the opposite sex) on the planet--whether trying to resurrect a relationship and love affair with someone that has the capacity to betray you, stab you in the back, hurt you beyond comprehension, and require YOU to woo her to restore this seems...well... to be a little backasswards.

Don't get me wrong--I'd LOVE for my wife not to have had an affair, the family not to have been ripped apart, my kids hurt, and their perfect life to be intact but it isn't. Its kinda like waking up one day and finding out that the rock solid perfect house you "thought" you had is infested by termites and is arguably beyond repair. Sometimes you have to make a replace versus rebuild decision which I guess is different in all cases.

I wish you the best of luck but you might give one of those other 2.5 billion females a shot out there to see if life is better with or without....I betcha there are some walking around that would have never done to you what she did. Some bells can't be unrung.