Bobbi Jo - This has to be very hard for you to see your children hurting. Change is difficult and not always for the best at first. Did they stay overnight at Dan's and not get much sleep?
No, they did not stay overnight at Dan's. We are already off of the plan we made together.
When Dan came over to talk Monday night he was concerned about the kids spending the night the first night at his house. We agreed to ease them into the transition. The plan was for them to go over last night, hang out for the evening at his place, unpack their suitcases full of clothes into their dresser, and make themselves at home. Then come back to my house to sleep. Then Friday he was to pick them up for the weekend. Their things would already be in place at his house ready to go.
Well, I left for the Y at 7:30 last night and he had not been by to get their suitcases. He had said that he would pick the kids up from child care and come get their things...
When I got home from the Y and running errands in Omaha, it was after 10. Not sure when the kids actually went to bed, I am guessing it was close to ten though as he was in their room still. Their suitcases were still on the couch so obv. they didn't unpack!
He came out and I asked what the deal was. He asked what I was talking about?? I said, the suitcases are here, guess you didn't unpack.
He said no, we didn't. It was nice out so I wanted to take advantage of the good weather. We went to mom and dad's for supper and played outside and then went into my house for a little bit.
I told him my understanding was that they were unpacking and settling in at his place....he said he didn't have their dresser put together yet so there was no place to unpack. And he said he would pick up the suitcases himself Friday during the day since he was taking the day off. He would get everything unpacked and ready for them for Friday evening.
That goes against everything we discussed re. them helping to unpack and settle in and doing it gradually instead of all in one day. I am frustrated but not really surprised.
