Holy Crap! Didn't expect THIS!

[Trixi]

ROFLMAO!!! Dom, I "heart" you! hahahaha!

I laughed thru that whole thing! You are a very good writer.

Besides which... How, exactly, do those guys have any right to complain: "Duuude.. your wife wants to LIVE with you??? Duuudee.. that's so wrong.. total disrespect..."

Snort!! LOL!

Okay, okay, I need to stop laughing.

Well, when YOU type it all out, it seems silly!

H did come over last night; we got all the (ugly) finances out on the table. Came up with the beginning plan of action.
I am moving in May 1st or sooner. (That's fine with me; I have a 1700sf house, 2 car garage and LOTS of hobbies and books. I need to winnow it down. I also need to help my landlord get the house ready for sale (to a degree) and hopefully he will list with me. That would be weird if he didn't....

I have several clients on my plate right now and I do work on the computer until about 10 at night (looking for listings, corresponding with people, preparing buyer's books or listing presentations, printing flyers, printing books, etc etc)and then starting first thing in the morning (6:30-7) so sitting over at the other house without an office will not work for me.

Last night I explained that I am freaked OUT and scared and he said that he is committed. Of course, then he adds "and then if we don't work out, I can say I really tried." Ugh. (But honestly, I guess I have an "exit thought" in mind, too, if it doesn't work out.)I think (I hope I am not wrong) that once he stops resisting and actually puts himself into it, the relationship will work out. He did the old "not to be cliche', but I know I love you, I just don't know if I am *in* love with you"-- but then he continued on and said "I guess that's to be expected after all this time, but it has me scared."

So.
One of the things that I have been wrestling with is "Do I buy the house I am in?". The meeting with the financial guy has helped me decided that no matter how much I want to, it is probably not a good idea for me if I buy something knowing I need to refi in 3 years. I don't think we'll be enjoying appreciation any time soon, so it is not smart for ME to buy. I should continue to rent (if my H and I don't work out.)

As I sort thru things and pare down the "stuff" I am also being prepared "just in case", so that I can move to a smaller place to rent if need be. I hate that I need a back up plan, but part of taking a risk is knowing that you can handle it if the risk doesn't pay off.

I know I shouldn't think that way, but my H is certainly not making me feel secure and warm and fuzzy. Last night stepson called and I told him there was a firm move in date and he was like "yeah. thta's good." (no enthusiasm) and then he added "I sure hope it's true, but you know how Dad is-- he is so loosey goosey on making a decision and then sticking to it."

Thank you for the suggestion on how to handle when he tries to weasel out of things. Naturally I will attempt to come up with something that is a little more respectful... Maybe "You made a decision- strap on a set and man up!" Heh. Maybe not.