WAW, 11th hour, wants H back

[Jasmine]

How far away are you from DH? Can you go back home? The phone coaching will help you for sure, at least by giving you hope. Is DH ready for D or does he still want to work through things?

I live 5 hours away from H. I am pretty sure I can go back home and live in the 2nd bedroom. H does NOT want the D. He told me so the day of mediation.

My H also values appearances and I've gained weight. It seems the more he finds me unattractive the more I eat. It's a horrible feeling, so I totally know where you're coming from. It doesn't make him a bad guy, it's just how he's wired. My H never says anything to me about my weight, and I kind of wish he had before it got out of control. I was where I am before he said anything... so you're lucky in that respect that he's honest with you.

I go over it and over it in my head. Is he shallow? He kept telling all he cared about was my health. He didn't want to see me have health issues. Plus, I wasn't able to do ANYTHING we used to do together. Bike ride, hike, etc.

Start by listing your goals and letting us know a bit more about where your H's head is right now.

I truly believe he wants to work this out. I truly believe if I sent this book to him he would consider working on things but is that being too pushy? I KNOW he would go to IC, MC a couples retreat. Our anniversary is next month. Maybe the first and second alimony payments he gave me will be saved up for the retreat.

I will definitely work on the goals. I will stay in the Newbie forum for now as the WAW section doesn't seem to get a whole lot of activity.

Thank you!