Speaking of transparency, I looked it up...
I have access to the phone bills for her phone (we have one account)
I have access to all her bank accounts (we have joint banking)
I have access to her e-mail account and electronic calendar (though there is no history of use reading each other's email so that will feel weird to do.)

I have no way to monitor video or text chat on the computer.
I have no way to monitor her leaving the house and visiting while I'm away, I'm away at least 1/2 of every week.

What can I do and what am I missing?

Amybel

M: 46, WAW:47
M: 12y
T: 16y
EA with OW 2/26/10
Bomb 3/9 "in love w/ my ex"
MC 3/12
NC 3/17
Bomb 3/31 "D on April 9
Trial Sep 4/1
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