Tell me more about transparency. I agree that she is so fogged out she will be hard pressed to comply. (part of why I want to see the OW agree to it too.)
The only people I could usefully expose the affair to are the OW parents who are quite elderly and I think it would end ANY possibility of reconciliation with W. Though, there are mutual friends who also stood up and made vows to uphold our marriage at our wedding. W is dead set against them knowing, counsellor agrees because they'd make things more complex, drama-filled, and messy.
Yes, no contact. W even agreed that I needed to be the one to convey the no-contact rules, not her. And when pressed she sounded very clear, and settled that this was the right step for her as well as for me.
Hope?
Amybel
M: 46, WAW:47 M: 12y T: 16y EA with OW 2/26/10 Bomb 3/9 "in love w/ my ex" MC 3/12 NC 3/17 Bomb 3/31 "D on April 9 Trial Sep 4/1 http://tinyurl.com/amybelstory
