Are you getting good marital advice?

[TrentC]

This is demeaning and belittling to anyone who has been a victim of the violent crime that rape is.

Not to mention the fact that the majority of rapes are NOT the proverbial "stranger in a dark alley". At the risk of straying off topic, a 2005 study by the Department of Justice showed that 73% of rape victims knew their attacker.

Which brings us back to: do your own research and decide for yourself how best to handle your relationship. In my case I've read at least a dozen different books, had counseling sessions with an IC and a MC, talked to a DB coach, attended a Retrouvaille weekend and post sessions, spoke with two different ministers, and gotten advice from a dozen different friends and family members from all walks of life.

Does this mean I have the answer? The only way to find out will be if and when she fully recommits to the marriage. But I know that -- whatever does happen -- I can say that I did my best.