When exactly was the last time your husband told you he wanted to still be with you?
Has he now come to terms with a D and moved on?
Is he dating?
It is obvious that if you were to get back together you need to do some serious work on getting the balance right in the R.
If you are finished with OM and your H seems to want to work on your M, why don't you give the Retrouvaille weekend a go. There is a thread on it in the piecing forum on these boards.
You might also get some good advice if you also post in the WAW section of the forums.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength