Gosh, FG. I thought most marriage experts advised about talking about what happened. That it's normal for the BS to want to talk about the whys, whens and whats about everything and that the cheating spouse should reveal all info for healing.

I have read that is an act of contrition to talk to your spouse about the uncomfortable stuff b/c it's healing. IDK

I can't recall the experts at the moment- Glass, Harley, maybe....


I personally don't know how a person can just move on and forget it. Forgive yes, but to just not talk about it anymore.... Talking is cathartic...


M38, H37
S3, S7
Together 15 yrs
Married 8 yrs
Bomb July 2008
Inhouse separation
"I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count)
Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)