still separated, in limbo, still hopeful

[june72]

Hi guys,
I appreciate all the feedback and really my intent was not to upset NM. I have done huge amount of reading on marraige, infidelity, etc, I have been watching this board for years. No I have NO experience with infidelity none.

I think sadly too often- people say supportive words to each other on this message board but don't ask the hard questions.

I see a situation were I think NM is not detached enough. I think she is going down an unhealthy road. She is too interested in tiny, tiny details about her WAS. IMO, she has to detach a whole heck of a lot more from this cake-eating man.

I like NM, I really, really do. She is the first thread I go to to see how her live is going. I LOVE her GAL efforts.

You just see someone in a bad situation and you want to yell out- 'No, NO, don't do it".

And now I feel I have basically scared her off the boards here. That s@cks, I don't want her to leave I want her to stay and post. Or do whatever makes her comfortable.

I true kindness is to not sugar coat things and IDK, IDK... IDK can't express myself.
I don't know what to say. NM, come back. I won't post anymore on your thread, ok. I think this is a great place to journal. I know that I've really found it helpful.
Please don't shut down.