5 more days till the Big D

[~Sol]

Hey Brk - a lot of good comments here. I too have tried meetup.com to GAL and it was fun! I am looking into other meet groups or even start one of my own where I can dig up like-minded people from out of the woodwork - I know they're around here somewhere! I tried to get right into dating after my separation, joined a local dating service and some online ones - met a few nice people, but no cigar. I am glad I didn't get deeply involved with anyone because they were really just a band-aid for me and all I really wanted was a rebound R to make me feel better - but that wouldn't be fair to the other person. So I played down my dating for a while and just went out with new people on friendly terms. Heck, I knew by then (about 2 years ago) that I was not "ready" for anything serious, and I am taking things at a slow pace - always good advice my friend.

All of us here went through some hard stuff in our M's. But there is also a lot to learn from it. I don't consider myself a hot-looking guy, but I do manage to get some dates, so I'm not a sore sight either! My self-esteem was shot back then, but when it's high self-esteem (healed) - I find that I attract good people to me. The key is the healing part - it makes all the good qualities about being you come out and shine. I'll probably say this a lot on these boards - it takes time to keep healing, but healing is what we must do first.