I think maybe it's better that you learn when to keep your mouth shut...which battles to fight and when to just be still....sometimes telling what you are feeling..basically bites you in the ass..
I think bottom line women want a man who knows when to listen to their problems and then when he has problems they like you to just eat your problem..and get rid of the problem so they have no fault..
Post divorce I dated enough men who talked me deaf, dumb and blind - never once asked about my life. So I don't think it's about the sexes, I think it's about giving and taking. I'm a giver, so are you. And people will take as much as we allow them to. My problem is I am willing to give more than I should in the beginning, men get used to it, I get tired of it. I create the monster. You hope in the beginning they will see your good nature and not push the boundary. But they do, it's hard to go back and fix. Expectations become high.
Stay true to you, MFT.
Although you may not buy into the DB thing anymore, your comments have always reflected that you do believe it taking care of self. Helping people to look into the 'ugly mirror' and eventually like what they see. Helped them to be OK on their own.
I thank God our paths crossed. I have learned much.
