still separated, in limbo, still hopeful

[Day by Day]

June,
Not that NM needs me "sticking up" for her, but I am going to stick up for all of us Betrayed Spouses who have to listen to your POV from well-meaning friends and family every day. Your intentions are good, I know you hate to see us in pain, but your perspective is uneducated, uninformed, and at worst, hurtful. We come here for an understanding support. Maybe you should refrain from advising on the infidelity thread if you can't shake pom poms at us. We give each other advice based on a "been there before you" POV. "Watch out for that pothole!" kind of thing. We get enough other POV's from real life, IRL.

Hold up now... not that June needs any sticking up for either, but as another Betrayed Spouse, I say for WhatNow to speak for yourself. I won't tell June to refrain from advising. She's given me helpful supportive advice on my thread. I find her posts to be kind, respectful and delicately stated. Especially this last post to NM.

As for shaking pom poms.... NM I have to say, one of your last comments on my thread soured me from posting anymore about my sitch. June had a delicate way of supporting me instead.

I'm done DBing myself... moving on, no longer serving my heart on a platter to someone who disrespects me with OW and hoping for him to value me instead. Much happier now that I've closed the door. Gained self-respect--joining P17 and CB in moving on and much happier for it.