Just to elaborate on the last bit of my post. I realised that I became totally co-dependant on my wife - for everything, my happiness, my self worth, finances. Everything I felt or needed depended on her. Now looking back on it, there is no person alive that would want to bear that burden - to be someone elses everything. Pity you always wake up too late to realise just how far down the line you have let yourself slip. It is terrible for your self esteem, when you finally get knocked back down to earth and realise where you are. The fact that I was abusing alchohol whilst on medication for my bi-polar was a big contributing factor to the state of mind I was in, and now that I am sober and doing much better psycologically I realise just how close I was to total self destruction. Not something any wife or family deserve. So basically I know how much I screwed up.I never used to be like this, I used to be a pretty good guy -thats why my wife stayed with me all these years. What I would like is some practical advice not only to salvage my marriage, but for me. I have ordered DR but it will only be arriving in about 2 weeks. Is this the right book for me to be reading or should I have gotten DBing or both.
