We were 15 years together before I came around to the idea of having children, and I had to overcome - with WH's wonderful support! - my fears... We also spent a year trying to concieve, and ended up with fertility treatment, which was no fun for me epecially. In my last email(persuing...) to WH, I reminded him of my fears and how I had said many times through tears "Don't make me a single mum...don't make me a single mum". I must have had a premonition.. He had a PA/ran off when I was 3months pregnant!
That is horrible Piano. I can't imagine how low you'd have to be to abandon a pregnant woman...grrr!
Have to say, though, some guys aren't really ready to be fathers...cause they aren't really grownups deep down inside.
I haven't read your sitch...but hugs to you.
And FWIW, don't invite anyone to your birth unless you feel totally safe with them. Birth is not a spectator sport. It's not just about your feelings...protecting your emotional safety helps the birth physiologically.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
