Robx - I guess you are right - she has known all along these differences but still chooses this guy.

Ken - I wonder if your W just sensed it in your attitude or heard something through the rumor mill?

I just started to think more this afternoon about what it will be like when she leaves. I think it will actually be a relief in some respects, but sad in others. I think a burden will be lifted - I won't have to deal with her every day but I will wonder what she is doing and with whom.

I am already starting to think about things I want to do to the house once she has gone. I have always wanted a nice chair to relax in and watch TV (LaZBoy type). I will get that and remove some of the other furniture assuming she doesn't take it to her new place. I also want to put in some light fixtures that she has never wanted to put up, and also tear out some bushes/trees that I have never liked in our yard! Also, I have never been a big dog person but we have 2 labs that she will likely take to her new place. The advantage will be that I won't have to clean up after them (dog hair in my pool, on our patio, dog crap in the yard, etc etc). I would rather have a W obviously and put up with these things, but I will be able to do some things I have always wanted if she goes.


ME/XW:47
S21, D19, S15, S14
M:21 T:26
W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12
W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline