still separated, in limbo, still hopeful

[WhatNow]

June,
Not that NM needs me "sticking up" for her, but I am going to stick up for all of us Betrayed Spouses who have to listen to your POV from well-meaning friends and family every day. Your intentions are good, I know you hate to see us in pain, but your perspective is uneducated, uninformed, and at worst, hurtful. We come here for an understanding support. Maybe you should refrain from advising on the infidelity thread if you can't shake pom poms at us. We give each other advice based on a "been there before you" POV. "Watch out for that pothole!" kind of thing. We get enough other POV's from real life, IRL.

Newmama's H is a textbook example of a wayward spouse. Many researchers have scientific evidence (Helen Fisher, Daniel Amen) of the brain in a romantic affair is exactly like that of a drug addict (I'm saving myself from going into dopamine receptor and lobe activity details). Many other researchers say more marriages than not, continue and even thrive after an affair. MWD says one person can save a marriage. The premise of this site is based on that idea.

Newmama has one of healthiest and effective Plan A's going!


Enjoy yourself nm! Other betrayed spouses, keep on DBing, Plan Ain', and Plan B'in!