Things That Matter

[ClingingToHope]

But if I can reign in my anger and my fears perhaps I can manage to stand firm with a minimum of impact to my S's.

That's the thing, all we are reading is anger, lots and lots of anger. I hope you are saving it for the board and not for your sons. You don't want them growing up with the memories that dad was always sad/angry.

I remember early on in my sitch I took the girls to the movies. A cousin came along so D11 could watch a different movie than D7.

D11 told my cousin she felt bad because W was always happy and I was always sad.

I resolved right then that that isn't how my girls are going to remember me when they think about this. They are going to remember me as upbeat, strong and never tearing their mom down. Yes, I tell them this isn't my choice, but I don't tear her down -- or at least I've tried not to.

And I know your sitch is WAAAAAYYYYY worse than mine. I can't imagine the pain.