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[june72]

You can not trust a cheater- that trust must totally be earned back. That is basic knowledge. I get frustrated but the gulliableness (sp?)of people not seeing the true right in front of them. Accepting a cheaters word.
It's hard I know, I can only imagine. You just want so badly to believe.

My intent was not about trust in the R stage but with the mucky middle part of an ongoing affair the cheated spouses are so willing to believe that is over if the cheater states it is.
Of course there is still lying going on.

I do like Cutter's comments on the 4 cornerstones.