What I learned about detachment

[steady]

Hiya Coach,

After a hiatus I've decided to come back and try to help others as I was helped by you, Mike, nds, Distressed, Tango Whiskey, Wifey, etc..

I can give back by using my hindsight as an example of what/what not to do.

Coach, I still have one of your posts that I copied small and put in my wallet..lol.

It intrigues me to see that detachment comes at it's own time. For some it comes sooner, others later, and for some, not at all. It seemed to just creep up on me one day. As I look back now it was a process that seemed to always be marching forward - sometimes in big leaps that were noticeable and sometimes in microscopic steps which I didn't even see at all.

I wish there was some magic words or ritual that I could give all the new people here so they can get the level of detachment that's necessary for each of their situations.

Perhaps we each need to go through the suffering that brings that detachment on its own. Maybe the point of detachment is the lesson that pulls us out of a codependent need to cling to another person. I certainly know the sitch's provide us all an opportunity to awaken to life itself. Most of us were asleep and were awoken by a bomb...but I count us as the lucky ones. Imagine those people who get bombed but still don't wake up.

At least here you have the opportunity to grow, to learn, to mature into an adult who can look a mess in the eye and put your nose to the grindstone. Moving even though at times you feel like you are frozen in amber.

Find ways to bring detachment to yourself.