still separated, in limbo, still hopeful

[june72]

June- have you dealt with infidelity?

No I never have. I have no clue how it would feel. I know that there are some really great people on this site who have successfully dealt with it like Puppy and Allen. Have you sought out there advice?

Do you know me?

No, I don't know you at all. I have religiously read along b/c I like your perky positive attitude. And some of those recipes-lol.

Do you know people who have overcome adversity in their lives and thrived? Are those people in denial of their feelings?

Yes I do know people who have overcome horrible adversity. Second question, not sure how it relates to the people I know when I think it is meant more concerning you it I get it right. Yeah, I do think you are in somewhat of in a denial- not so much about feelings but... gosh, how do I say this, realities (not the right word can't find a better one though) of course that is my opinion.

I don't know why I care...it's my choice and my life. So that's the end of my defensiveness- it NOT GOOD FOR PMA!!!!

It totally 100% is your choice, your life. I am all for good PMA.

Gosh, how do I say this with out hurting your feelings. I don't want to hurt your feelings but... this is how I see it.
The man has been cheating on your for a long time. Left you while pregnant against the approval of friends, family and co-workers. Is actually living with her. Has been living with her for quite some time.
I don't know if it's healthy to keep your hopes up that he will return. I mean you stated once that giving up is losing. It is not losing in my mind.
Ugg!
I mean what would an IC say. What do your friends and family say. I think the family and his is still for fighting for the marraige right?


I really think, IMO, he has made a new life now. And is treating you as a friend. I think it is really, really shitty of him. When you cried in front of him and then confided your real feeling. I did not see any indication of him desiring to change the status quo.

I just think this is a very very unhealthy dynamic.

I think I am known as the resident pain int he butt here on the boards. But I would like to think of myself as an alternative view point. Maybe one that is so very incredibly wrong but maybe an opinion that will make you think about things in a different light maybe? perhaps, IDK.

I really did not mean to upset you. I just have an abrupt way about me. I actually hate that quality that I have. I upset people with out really intending to. Just ask Kalni. I am sure she loves to see my posts. I am chuckling as I say that...(not in a mean way though...in a nice way, at myself)

Anyhow, I was so good with not going in these boards and the past 24 hours... psst!