Mila, if I am not mistaken, you and your h own a business together. And you were more than happy to get info from ow h, which you admitted turned out to be true.
If that info was of absolutely no value, then the old saw about knowledge being power really isn't true after all. My mistake.
Thank you all for your posts, I'll respond, but I just can't right now. I'm having a terrible day. Our family dog just died this morning. And I'm so sad. He's been part of our family for the past 13 years. Everything is crashing on me. Our family as I know it is no more, first my H walks away now we loose our dog, what else is going to happen, when will it stop....
I know that he was old, he had arthritis, couldn't walk so well, but it's so sad to loose him...
I'd let him out into the yard to do his business this morning and then I go out and I see him laying down on the grass in the sunshine, so peaceful. He didn't move when I came out, his tail wasn't wagging and his eyes were open. I knew that he was gone.
My H came over for our business meeting 1/2 hour after I found him, we both cried and hugged each other. I asked WH to bury him and he did, wrapped him in a blanket and put him in the ground at the back of the garden. He took care of all of that, told me "don't worry I can handle this just go and sit down". He cried the whole time doing it.
I went to wake up D16 to tell her, she didn't want to see his body, didn't want to face it. But H told her that she has to come out that we will have a little ceremony for him as a "family". So we all said goodbye to him and remembered all the guffy things he did. I said that the dog loved our old house and all the forest to roam there, my H said "we were so happy there"...it's all just heartbreaking.
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When WH was leaving we hugged very tight and rubbed each other's back as we stood there in a hug and he was putting small kisses on my shoulder. It felt good.
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"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I went through the same exact thing a few weeks ago. We lost ours as well. I'm sorry, I know how hard it is.
There have been some other very difficult things that have came up along with my divorce this past year. I could have never imagined....
I too have asked that question, "when will it stop?"
You will get through all of this and become a much stronger, more balanced and better all around person I promise you. Often, this is how we grow as individuals. I know it's tough to see it that way right now, but you will get through all of this.
So sorry for your loss! They are so much a part of the family and it is so hard to deal with. I know it is no consolation, but it sounds like he went peacefully. We went through that fairly recently and it is horrible.
Kissak, trapt & thrustingfaith thank you so much for reaching out, you have no idea how much I appreciate it. He was a crazy dog, but he was ours and we loved him and we will miss him. RIP
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Mach1, kissak, Jack & cat04 thank you for your advice. You all agree on one thing "STOP TALKING TO OW's HUSBAND"
Well...lesson learned...........
WH came by again this afternoon to talk about business. I really lay-out the numbers for him to make him see that we can't continue like this and brought up the reliability (leaving town for weeks at the time to see OW) and trust issue (doing free work behind my back for OW's company and not charging for services).
WH said that he won't be flying out as often and for as long anymore, said that he will go maybe once in 4-6 weeks for a few days (We'll see)
As for doing work for OW; said that he is sorry for not telling me about it, that it was wrong.
I told him that we should start billing for hosting OW's Company website; he said "BUT I PROMISED HER THAT I WOULDN'T" I said why should our struggling business subsidize another business. WH said that he will think about it.
THEN HE BOROUGH UP WHAT OW'S HUSBAND has been telling everyone about him and apparently I'm the source of all the information. OW's Husband used me and twisted things around and really exaggerated to make my WH look really bad.
WH was crying so hard, (reminded me of a little boy) and said "People are now thinking that I'm a no good looser, Is that what you think of me too?"
I told him that I always looked up to him and respected him and thought that he was the best guy I could wish for and despite his recent choices I still feel the same.
I apologized if I said anything that was used against him by OWH. Told WH that I have stopped talking to OWH when I realized that he was probably using me. That I was naive to think that he is just my support-buddy. I have also told him that I often defended him and have never put him down in front of OWH.
Well anyway in retrospect...talking to OWH was not good DB'g. I had some damage to repair today. But we hugged and cried together after this exchange, so I hope we are all good. Last thing I want is for WH not to trust me.
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