What you wrote doesn't sound harsh, so no apology needed! In fact, my doctor suggested something along these lines to me (great minds think alike).
I can see why these things would cause resentment and possibly even feelings of fear in him. My income is almost triple his, but that doesn't matter to me and never has. That doesn't mean that it doesn't matter to him. It's not something I even think about or talk about to him.
Immediately after my mother's death, he asked me if I was going to leave him/divorce him. Even in my indescribable mental state, I thought this question was ridiculous and unnecessary. He asked me that same question a few more times after that. This now makes me wonder if he's been thinking/worrying about this for 4 years.
His comments from a couple nights ago about "You have this $, that $, so you'll be fine" also shed more light on his resentment and/or insecurity about this.
