DQ, you don't have to take EVERYTHING I say as being tightly tied to my own personal situation! I know it's difficult to hear what I say in a more general context, but give it a try sometime. I know you can do it! ;-)
Yes, I agree that you can't give two lovers the same kind of attention, and certainly not the emotions tied to feeling totally special and exclusive and always being available, and not sharing with someone else. Not to mention the element of time -- there isn't enough to go around.
Sounds like you at least agree that one can be "in love" with two people at the same time, and that that's what they call the "fog" or the "confusion". Not the deepest kind of love maybe, but certainly the kind of love one can encounter in the emotional roller-coaster world of dating. I certainly saw that myself -- one woman was in love with two guys, and realized she had to make a decision. It was very tough for her because she couldn't get herself to face the fact that it meant she had to "end" one of the relationships, and put to rest all the hopes, dreams, feelings, etc. with one of them. Her problem was that they were both great guys, so how does one decide? Now, you could say that was selfish of her, but once you get in that situation, it's still tough.
