One interesting observation from the past 3 days. We had a pretty nice day on Saturday going to D16's game that night, getting something to eat after, and everyone seemed to enjoy each other's company. We even talked about all going to church together on Sunday.
I woke up Sunday morning. W came into the room and I told her 'good morning'. She then said "How can you act like nothing is wrong?" Then an argument/R discussion ensued. If I wasn't have asleep in my bed I would have walked out but I was lazy and just laid there while she went on her rant.
It is weird, but it almost seems like when things seem like they are OK she wants to sabotage it. God forbid that we can actually be happy and enjoy each others' company? I may be mind-reading here but it also happened the previous weekend. We had a nice day with kids on Saturday and she picked a fight on Sunday.
During yesterday's argument, she took down our two wedding pictures that are hanging in our room. She said something like "Time to take THESE down!". For whatever reason, when I got home from work today, she had put them back up.
If I didn't know better, something got stirred up in her mind, possibly a small amount of fear of loss plus the reality that divorcing and breaking up the family unit will be much harder for her to handle that she admits.
Continue acting as if life is great, and stop pursuing relationship talk with her, let her talk, as long as she isn't abusive or mean spirited, you can listen to what she has to say, you don't have to agree to anything, you can validate her feelings (although I rarely see this work effectively, something like "I know this hard for you to make this decision, I'm cool with whatever you end up doing" with a big smile on your face)
