You will know what is right for you. If you decide to talk to him do it for you and your goals. Yes you need goals. Maybe it is to give your self time without buying into this drama. Then if any of those goals is talking to H then do it. I will say I think you should not concentrate on your M right now. That's what my IC just told me. He's (H) not even ready to do this. YOU have been the gas driving this engine. You got to get into your own car now. Let him ride with you when you want to but when he talks about your R or M then let him off at the curve, politely. IOW I don't think reconnecting should be one of your goals right now.
You will recognize nondetaching behavior. It will make you feel sh*t.
For example I feel like sh*t today...long story.
Grit
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
