Thank you for such a thought provoking question Mach1. Yes, to my H I guess it is true as his perception is his reality. On the other hand my perception is my reality, and I definitely did and do love him. I believe if I didn't I would in no way consider ever taking him back after all this. I don't need my H, I do want him though. I realize my old M is dead and I don't want that back anyway, so yes, if I ever get the chance again with my H I would do things differently. H would have to as well to make a new R work.
Okay....part two....
Did you love him the way that YOU feel love ?
Or the way HE feels love....
There is a difference....
Maybe his perception isn't that warped, and BOTH are true....