I'm having trouble aligning time when my friend and W are both available for me to go get the rest of my stuff out of our/her apt. I want my friend there as a witness. He is letting me put some of my stuff in his storage unit and we are going to split the cost.
I wish I could go over and get my stuff without W there. I can tell she is setting up time for me to come over there so that it does not interfere with the days she plans to spend w/ OM.
The sooner I can get my stuff out the sooner I can have her served. I have been doing my best to divert my mind when I begin to think of her w/ OM. It's tough and the jealousy sneaks in sometimes.
I'm not sure I understand, wasn't the apartment originally both of yours or is her name the only one on the lease? If it's under both your names, you don't have to wait, you have as much right as her to go into that apartment and get your stuff or live there as far as I'm concerned.
You're too conservative here, you're afraid that every action you take will disqualify you from spousal support, etc.
Just do it. If you have to, just let her know when you're going there to get your stuff, what do you need a witness for? Are you expecting a fight? It's your place for crying out loud!
