feel like giving up - pt 2

[ImprovedRomeo]

[quote] a husband will want sex and the wife will act like it's the biggest chore but will satisfy his request. that is worse to a guy than getting rejected. Or, they will say ya, but not be in it at all. same thing.

Umm...ST, how do you know so much about Mrs. Romeo LOL

Luvless, DB'ng isn't for your husband, it's for you. Remember I said you can't control what he does but you can control what you do. Is it a guarantee that it'll work? no but it has worked for many and improves your odds along with improving your self esteem.

You say he sees you as distant and it irritates him, that's normal. Remember I said it makes the other person mad at first because they're no longer the center of your universe. They see that they're losing control of the situation, or seeing you slip away from them and they're afraid of that. That's preceisely what they need to feel so they snap out of it. However, these changes have to be permanent. You can't try them for a few weeks and expect miracles. Like I said they will improve the odds.

Also, the divorce should have no bearings on your ability to DB. Set your boundaries, don't talk about D, R etc, don't give him ultimatums, don't do anything you might regret later on. Just keep your end of the street clean without becoming a doormat. Read this:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1358197#Post1358197

and a few others in that section.