still separated, in limbo, still hopeful

[4luv]

I don't have a problem with what NM is doing. AS long as she feels fine and that comes across in her post then I think she is fine on her path. We all have to do things on our timing. I did what NM is doing for a year while living together even though some posters told me to leave sooner. While I did eventually leave, I did it when I WAS READY!! The same for NM...I am sure she will switch up her game plan when she is ready.

I don't think people have a problem but are rather just offering her some other ideas based on THEIR OPINION of improving her marriage. Yes june's post did hint that she should move on and not be with her husband but only NM REALLY knows her husband's heart and who HE IS so ONLY she can decide to be with him or not. Same with my husband...

Posters asked me why am I staying with him with the way he has treated me but only I know our FULL HISTORY which is why I chose to fight for the marriage.

But I didn't take offence to other's opinions of what I should do (and I don't see NM doing that either).

BTW, ST..not an attack on you just answering your posts. You are also one of the vets whose advice I follow and I admire your strength in the Lord. He has been my ROCK in my stitch also.