She has a "legit" job now....she married in the church....

that's nice.

But it doesn't seem like she lives within the tenents of said church. And it certainly does not make up for the fact that she still gravitates toward icky men.

I am very afraid for your little boy and believe that you need to get him away from her. There are plenty of good women out there who do not have "daddy issues" and your son deserves to have one of those for a mom.