I am sorry. (((((BBJ))))) You wanted these things with Dan, in a life that you had created together. Hard to see him get these things on his own. They are possessions afterall.
You are making a life for you and the kids based on who you are. Things don't define a person. He did however have to furnish his home and he chose to go the new stuff route probably with the help of his Mom. I do expect the kids to be a bit excited by all of that at first, so don't let that bring you down.
You are doing a great job. Now go grab a pint!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory